Thursday, June 23, 2011

Pet peeves

Dear Diary,

Yep I'm complaining again. Today's complaint is my new pet peeve; not responding to correspondence. I get that sometimes you want to think about something before you reply. I understand, but just say that. How hard would it be to say "I'd like to give this a little thought I'll get back to you shortly"? Maybe it's because I'm unemployed that people do not feel my time is valuable (factoring in the amount of time I spend watching T.V. shows and movies they may have a point) but I've found that I'm not getting responses.

I was planning on hitting up a couple stores that I knew APF would enjoy so I sent a text saying I was going and asked if APF would like to tag along. NOTHING, that's right no response at all. I waited hours to see if APF would reply but that was days ago and still nothing. I told some other friends that there was an event taking place near their house that SO and I would be interested in if they were free (I also told them there was no pressure because there was an event by us that we would also enjoy if they were not free). NOTHING, like I never even sent the message. Not to mention the hundreds of job applications I have sent out without hearing anything, not even a quick "Your skills do not match what we are looking for".

These are the examples that are fresh in my mind but I know there are more. I just don't understand, my feelings are not going to be hurt, I get that just because I don't have a life and can do things last minute doesn't mean other people can, but don't leave me hanging. Tell me you don't have the time, that you are not interested in the activity, or you just don't want to do whatever it is. Tell me I'm not a candidate for the job so I can scratch it off my list. I will understand, but radio silence? That just sucks.

Until next time,


  1. Yes, non responsive people are really rude. I hate that too.

    I also hate the otherside of the spectrum. When I don't answer fast enough. I work full time. I work for the state , and the state has a block on personal emails, I cannot access my email account at work, so I have to wait till I get home.

    Many times I get a curt note..." I emailed you hours ago, why do I not have an answer!".

    I guess they think I am a big business with employees who sit all day to answer emails.

    In either case, a little thought and consideration is not too much to ask for!


  2. Hey Sig,
    I understand the other side too. I admit that I do have a tendency to be on the impatient side, but lately it's been no response at all. It has been days since both of the references with my friends and they still haven't replied.

    I also have a tendency to avoid confrontation, so I would never acknowledge their lack of response, I just stop asking them to do things.

    On the job front most of them I have spent months waiting on, if I were in a position to be choosy and they offered me a position, I'd turn them down on principle.

    Oh well I'm sure I do things that drive other people crazy too.

  3. Sig,
    It is a blur, people are busy; they get caught up in their own lives. I would try a different approach if no results. Ask different people to go. Sometimes we need to move out of circle, our comfort zone. It is the way of the world; the rushed, busy world. Hang in there and know you aren't alone~ Try, try again...seems to be my new motto!

  4. I feel your pain... I hate that too