Wednesday, April 20, 2011


Dear Diary,

Today’s entry is brought to you by the letter ‘Q’. I like things quiet. Even from a young age, I liked the quiet. Libraries are a wonderful place where it is always quiet. When I was a kid, my younger sibling and older sibling would fight over music and turn their stereos louder and louder. When this happened I would take whatever book I was reading outside and sit in the peach tree in our back yard, when the weather was bad I would grab a flashlight and take refuge in my parent’s closet. My parent’s room was at the other end of the house and the walk-in closet had a door that I would close, then I would crawl over shoes and boxes into the nook in the corner and read in the beautiful silence. When my parents divorced YS responded vocally and loudly and I spent almost every night after homework in the closet reading and escaping the noise.

I still like quiet. I’m lucky to have respectful neighbors that we hardly ever hear. It works out nicely that SO is also content in quiet. Unless we are watching a movie the only sound you hear in our room is the clicking of keys or the turning of pages. The only issue with this is we want to foster kids and kids are not quiet. I often wonder how parents don’t loose their minds or at least have ear plugs surgically implanted. I know that fostering kids will be so rewarding and that SO and I will make wonderful foster parents, I’m just not sure how I will adapt to noise. Our friends have kids and we are fine around them, even though they are not quiet, but not everyday. I’m probably one of a handful of people who think about thinks like this when thinking of parenthood. For now I’ll just enjoy the quiet and daydream about the noisy and hectic times I hope our in our future.

Until next time,


  1. Hi Spence,

    I too posted on "Quiet". Great minds think alike, huh?

    Quiet is a wonderful thing. Sometimes we just don't get enough of it.


  2. I too have always liked quiet. When I was a kid I tended to do more solitary quiet things like stamp collecting, model building, and reading. My wife and I life alone now and much of the time our house is as quiet as a monastery. Even when our kids were young and at home they were usually pretty quiet. Although when we all get together it can get noisy with all the fun we're having.

    Loved reading about your childhood memories.

    Tossing It Out

  3. Working in distance academic library, where the people using the library are library staff, certainly means our library is quiet, even when we are busy. I hate the thought of a quiet public library though, as it means there aren't any people inside, at least in the non-designated quiet areas.

    Brave and admirable that you are thinking of fostering. I have three nieces and that's quite enough for me, they are very smart and beautiful girls, but when they are together (two of my sister's kids, one of my brother's) I am almost deafened by the screams of play. Not to put you off as I'm sure the lack of quiet will be made up for in other ways.

  4. Sig - great minds do think alike ;-)

    Lee - I don't know that I've ever had the patients for stamp collecting but building models was always fun.

    WiFilibrarian - I love when public libraries are quiet, everyone talking in whispers, it gives it a sense of reverence. The downtown library is 3 stories and is generally packed, but somehow is generally quiet. The library by SO on the other hand is the loudest freaking library I've ever been in, people yell to each other that they found something on the internet and laugh out loud at videos they watch, and none of the staff asks them to be quiet. I think the library was designed poorly and has bad acoustics too. I can't stand that library even if I just run in grab a book, when I leave I'm agitated and in a grumpy mood. As for fostering I know it means I'll have to sacrifice most my quiet time, but I think the rewards will balance it.